Only Positives

 I keep relearning, but not reapplying, a certain lesson.  I feel like I need to always speak my mind.  Yet, that need to speak my mind often gets a foot caught in my mouth.  My marriage is not perfect and, instead of stating what's right with my husband, I often state to him what I don't like about our marriage or him. 

My husband wants to improve, but I think it's hard for him when no matter what he does, it doesn't feel like it's enough.  I often feel like what I do is not enough either, and maybe that is blamed on him instead of taking responsibility for my own feelings.

I have heard many times before to only focus on the positives, yet I find myself slipping back into focusing on the negatives.  Skip Ross mentions a challenge that he likes to give whenever he speaks.  He invites couples to totally eliminate all criticism, including constructive criticism, of their spouse for 90 days.  For singles, he invites them to eliminate all criticism of the person who repels them the most.  He has gotten many complaints and criticism from others, but those who choose to take his challenge find a vast improvement in their relationship. 

I heard a story about marriage, I don't remember where.  It was a couples' anniversary (probably 50th or 60th) and the grandchildren, getting close to marriage age themselves asked their grandmother one question: "What has kept your marriage alive so long?"  The grandmother said, "I told myself that when I married your grandfather I would forgive 10 of his biggest faults all of the time."  The grandchildren were now curious, "What were the top 10?" The grandmother smiled and said, "I don't know.  I never brought myself to writing them down.  Whenever he did something that annoyed me I just said to myself, 'good thing that's one of the ten' "  I think there's a lot to be said about that philosophy - one I might attempt.

Let us love a little more and criticize a little less.  Let us hug a little more and hold resentment a little less.  Let us praise a little more and whine a little less.  Let us give the word of praise and try to uplift and upbuild, as Skip Ross also said.  Another great man, Brett Dimler, said, "Those who praise their husbands until their husbands' self-esteem gets healed often become very wealthy women....We need each other."

We all are working on becoming better.  I think many of us are painfully aware of what we're doing wrong and often forget what we do right.  I'm going to take Skip Ross's challenge.  Please join me and let's work together in making this world a better place to live.

You are AWESOME!

My Christmas Wish

No, that was a Christmas wish over 4 yrs ago ;)

My Christmas wish this year stems from a walk I took with my son today.  I like to say hi to everyone I pass- I don't really know why.  I just know that we're all God's children and every person deserves my care and consideration  just for that simple fact.  Many people either looked at me funny or ignored me as we passed each other.  Others, however, smiled warmly. 

It seems like many people these days just go about their daily business and don't notice others around them.  We were all put on this earth at this time in this place for a reason.  Maybe there's someone in your path today whom you can help.  I'm not perfect at this, but I'm constantly praying for an opportunity to help someone I meet.

I'm not saying all of this to say, "Look at me, aren't I wonderful!"  I'm saying this because I'm setting up my Christmas wish.  I wish that more people would notice those around them and give a little nod, smile or hi.  We are creatures who love to feel like we belong, even from a stranger.  I wish more people would just be kind to others, not because they want something in return, but just because it's the right thing to do.

My other Christmas wish is that people would pick up after themselves.  Please don't litter.  This earth is ours to share and we only have one earth, so, please treat it with respect.  We can't do everything, but we CAN do something.

I know many of you are doing these things, but for those of you who aren't, please help fulfill my Christmas wish.  It doesn't cost you any money, but everyone can do it.  Thank you for reading.

You are AWESOME!

Good, Better, Best

There was a talk a little while ago by one of my church leaders named Dallin H. Oaks.  This is similar to the Simplify blog post, but I was just thinking about this today and I think many people need a reminder.

Basically what I learned from the talk is that in any given day, at any given time, we have many choices of what to do.  Many of those choices are good choices, but not better or the best things we can do with our time.  Some of those choices are better choices than the good choices, but not as good as the best choices.  The best choices are what is MOST important for you to do with your time.

I find the good choices are plentiful (like Facebook and Twitter - it's good to move my business forward and connect with friends, but it can also eat up a lot of time that I need to spend on other things).  The better choices are not as abundant (like cleaning - not fun, but needs to be done), but are still plentiful.  Yet, the BEST things I can do at any given moment take more time and effort to discover.

What are your priorities?  What are your values?  What is the MOST important (either makes the most money or can't be done another day or most valuable - the crystal balls as Rich German mentioned) RIGHT NOW?  As Robert Allen would say, the most successful people procrastinate - they just procrastinate the good and the better things and focus on the BEST first.

I realized this morning that this is something I need to strive harder to accomplish.  Being a stay-at-home mother of a busy little 14-month old boy and apartment manager take up most of my time.  It doesn't leave me much time to focus on my businesses.  I have SO much going on and not much time to do it in that I need to focus on the BEST, and once I get that accomplished focus on the next best, etc.

Because I'm not feeling well right now, the BEST thing I think I can do right now is prepare for and go to bed.  Good night.

You are AWESOME!

Wendy Robbins

                 http://www.youwealthrevolution.com/wendy 

                             www.nowheretomillionaire.com 

* are my thoughts *

People don’t know how to have the millionaire mindset or to keep the money – What ARE MY DISEMPOWERING beliefs in regards to money?  How important, on a scale of 1-10, is it that I am financially free? 

8 of her 10 questions that she delves into more in her book (image above - click on it to purchase)

1. Why am I not living up to how much money I want?   

2. Where did I pick up my disempowering beliefs?   

3. Why do you believe that?  

4. What (benefit) do I get out of my disempowering beliefs?  When I do this, I’m peeling an onion and I’m parenting myself the way I wish I had been parented.   

5. Is this belief real (Byron Katie)?   

6. Could the opposite be true?  Stick with what works and let go what doesn’t. 

7. Under what circumstances in my life was the opposite and it worked out? 

8. What would happen if I let go of my limiting beliefs?

*Think about the above before going any further because...*Thoughts and feelings lead to actions lead to results –

Tip #1: If I think negatively (or positively), say “As you wish.” – because our thoughts are our genies – say “cancel, cancel,” sortof like canceling an order at a restaraunt.  If I don't cancel, it will manifest in my life.

Tip #2: When I’m holding myself back, think to myself, “YOU GO GIRL (or guy).”  You have permission to be rich.  Think to yourself, "How do I get my message out to the most people?"  My job is not to figure out HOW but just have a big enough WHY.

Tip #3: If I feel like I’m working so hard and can’t work any harder: Outsource

 *WOW!  This was AMAZING!  She invited all of us on the call to look her up on Facebook and I'm sure the same will apply to you.  She has SO much to give and share.  We all deserve to be millionaires.  I've heard that throughout our working careers most of us will become millionaires, but the question is, how many of us will have that million at one time.  I've heard so many people say they want to marry a millionaire, which to me means they don't want to put forth the effort to do so themselves.  Many millionaires leverage their time and money and from what I hear, it almost seems easier to be a millionaire than to work 40-90 hours a week.  We are here for SO much more than to work a job, retire and die.  We are each here on this planet to make the difference in this world that only WE can make, based on our talents and interests.  I've quoted Skip Ross before and I'll quote him again, "Say YES to your potential!"*

You are AWESOME!

Natalie Ledwell

 I feel like Natalie's one of my best friends even though I've never met her.  She has such a loving heart, unbreakable spirit and positive attitude.  She's someone I'd definitely like to hang around (if she didn't live in Australia and I in USA).  She is not only a co-creator of Mind Movies (www.mindmovies.com) but she also tells a lot about herself and a struggle she went through in life and shares the answer of how to overcome any challenges you're facing in 7 weeks with her 7 Secrets to Happiness (www.mindmovies.com/7secretstohappiness/).  She is an AMAZING coach and leader to follow.  Here are some of her words she shared on You Wealth Revolution.

Focus on WHAT we want, not HOW we want it – don’t look for what I just think I am supposed to do (force fit), but go with my passion – she found something she is passionate about – though she worked hard, she felt fulfilled while she was doing the work – How is your mind recreating the vibrations? Subconscious mind stores information and through repetition, it gets ingrained – Law of Gratitude (different each day) - 

My future is NOW

You are AWESOME!

Info Renegade System

Not their system, but a book on a similar subject

This blog post is about making money.  Not just making money, but making MASSIVE amounts of money (try 6 figures per MONTH).  If you are not interested in this, read no further.  If you are, whether or not you've heard of affiliate marketing, keep reading.

Realities of Business

1. People are less likely to spend money
2. Old reliable business models aren’t working (retail, malls)
3. Customers are rebelling against what lacks humanity
4. New currency of the world is information (not stuff) – accessibility is huge now

4 Pillars of Information Marketing

1. Fast is easier than slow – success likes speed – base on experience

2. Big is easier than small – worldwide is easier than regional

3. Leadership is your new checkbook – CRITICAL- as soon as I make the choice to stand up, people start to follow – my people have been waiting for me to show up – caring is the seed for everything

4. Go deep, not wide – Tribes by Seth Godin  - no one wants to have their problem solved halfway – they want to be a part of a movement – go deep into one market instead of many niches

The website to this system is: www.inforenegadesystem.com

You are AWESOME!

T. Harv Eker

This was the first call in You Wealth Revolution (www.youwealthrevolution.com).

Our wealth is inside of our power (the ability to act).  The only person I can rely on is myself (Do I have a person in myself to rely upon?).  We need new information for this new world.  When I start a business ask myself  if it’s not just the RIGHT VEHICLE, but it’s the RIGHT ME in the RIGHT VEHICLE.   Does this vehicle FIT me?  I need to have an area that I care about and am SO passionate about.  

T.Harv Eker started becoming successful when he realized HE had something to offer.  We need to find a vehicle that: we are passionate about, we are good at, we have natural talent.  People give us money because we solve their problems.  Money is a reward for solving problems

We have a setpoint when it comes to our bank account.  I won’t succeed until I change my programming.  My thoughts lead to feelings lead to actions lead to results.  Act “As if” and success will come automatically.

Write the chapter in my life I’ve always wanted to.  I was born to do something.  BE a success and everything I touch will turn to GOLD.

You are AWESOME!